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By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew
Dear La Vonne,
I was raised in an extremely physically and verbally abusive home. I am a grown woman now, 37 years old, and yet I revert to the frightened little girl whenever I am around my father. I need to see him because of family get-togethers. Now that Father’s Day is approaching I am filled with anxiety knowing I will see him. Why can’t I just grow up, forget the past and act like the woman I should be?
Dear Powerful Woman of God,
I am sorry that you were raised in a home that was not safe and was unloving. The consequences of our early beginnings can last a life time if we allow them to. Without knowing much of your story and the woman that you have become, I will seek to answer you assuming it is at least physically safe for you to be around your father. As I begin to answer your question let’s start with the first key being the truth of who you were created to be. God has created you to be a powerful woman of God. He has given you a sound mind with the ability to discern that which is good and helpful to you. He has given you rights and boundaries that should never be crossed, and should someone try you have the right to exercise your authority over that person, regardless of who they are. In fact when you exercise your authority for truth, you have the power to create change!
Anxiety and ear are nothing more than a lack of knowledge and faith. When you obtain the knowledge of who you are (truth) establish your purpose or goal, which sounds like you desire to have a peaceful relationship with your father, you can then create a plan of action in order to receive the peace you desire. Practice at home before you see him exactly what you will say with truth and love should there be a need for correction. I suggest meditating on God’s word, guard your mind and your heart with the love of God. Take a scripture to rely on to sustain you while you are in the presence of your father and enjoy the success which will be yours! Remember also to speak to yourself that which you wish to see, such as “I am a powerful woman of God.”
Suggested scripture: 2 Timothy 1:7”For God did not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.”
Do you have a question for La Vonne? Send her an email at Lavonne@YourKingdomInheritance.com. Visit her website at www.yourkingdominheritance.com. Rich blessings!