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‘Thin dime and prayer’ takes Tax Tiger founder very far

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By Kathy Hill
Special to Inside The Pew

Editor’s note: Kathy Hill is founder of Tax Tiger, a tax resolution business specializing in resolving IRS liabilities for taxpayers; it isKathy Hill based in Sacramento, Calif.

Why did you start your business?

“I started Tax Tiger because I worked previously for a huge, mega tax law firm that specialized in Tax Resolution and was not giving the clients proper service for their money. After working there for 4 years and learning the business, the work environment became so hostile that I left there.  I felt the Lord leading me to start my own business to do it the “right way.” My motto is “making a difference in people’s lives” and money is not my priority.  Helping people out from under the stress and fear of the IRS is my primary objective.  I started on a thin dime and a prayer and because my faith and trust in God is so strong, I knew He would carry me through.  Today, 10 years later, I have clients in almost all 50 states and 5 franchises across the country and we have had an A+ BBB rating for years.  God has blessed in a mighty way because I advertise we are a faith-based business on our website and our ads and give Him all the honor and glory.”

What is the one scripture (or two) that you draw strength from?

“The major scripture I draw from is Jeremiah 29:11 which reads:  ‘For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you hope and a future.’  This scripture speaks to my heart and lets me know daily that God has great plans in store for my business to prosper and I trust in His word.  He has never failed me.

Share the best advice you can share with an entrepreneur?

“On Aug. 20, 2013, I released ‘Is God’s Hand on Your Business?’ which lists 15 essential principles of success and prosperity.  My main piece of advice is to earnestly seek His will and stay as close to the center of His will as you possibly can, because in that place will you experience peace, and prosperity.  But throughout the years I have learned many principles from His word that has helped keep His hand of favor over my business.”

Have an interesting tidbit about your business or yourself that you would like to add?

“We routinely settle IRS liability of many thousands of dollars for as little as $20.  They are all listed on my website TaxTiger.com but when the IRS debt falls off their shoulders they call in tears saying, ‘Thank God for you, Kathy’.”

Learn more about Tax Tiger’s services at www.taxtiger.com. Also, visit Hill’s author site at http://kathyhillauthor.com/.

Church leaders buying out theaters for screenings of ‘Son of God’

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By Dan Wooding
Founder of ASSIST Ministries

HOLLYWOOD, Calif. (ANS) – American church groups are seeking to “take over” entire theaters for screenings of “Son of God,” theDiogo Morgado upcoming movie from 20th Century Fox, about the life of Jesus Christ, and based on the hit “Bible” miniseries.

According to Hilary Lewis, writing in the Hollywood Reporter, “Various religious organizations throughout the country have been buying out screens and distributing tickets to groups of thousands of people for ‘Theater Take-Overs’ on Thursday, Feb. 27, the night before the film’s officially released, according to production company Lightworkers Media.”

The story went on to say that Crossroads Church in Cincinnati is bringing thousands of people to a Cinemark theater, where “Son of God” will be showing on 13 screens at the same time.

“Our church bought out every screen in the theater,” Crossroads’ Brian Wells said in a statement. “If anyone comes to the theater to see another movie that night, they’ll be out of luck, unless we have a few extra tickets to give them!”

There are a few other theater buyouts for “Son of God” scheduled at Cinemark locations throughout the country, according to the theater chain’s marketing and communications head James Meredith.

“It’s very interesting to see this level of excitement around the movie,” Meredith said. “The interest level for meetings, events, screenings and buyouts seems to be on par with that of major blockbuster, tent pole or franchise movies.”

Mega-church pastor Rick Warren of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif., is buying out screens in eight different theaters throughout Orange County.

“I’ve seen most of the films about Jesus produced in the past 50 years, and ‘Son of God’ is the best,” Warren said. “We’re excited Jesus is back on the big screen, and we’re going to fill the theaters. I want every other faith leader in America to do the same. Whether you can buy out a whole theater, or just one screen, now is the time to show up. This is a rare opportunity to bring the story of Christ into our mainstream culture.

“We want to see Jesus in movie theaters where sight and sound can open up our senses and let grace come in. The message of the Gospel deserves to be on the big screen – and this is our chance to see it there.”

Besides supporting the film, Warren is also partnering with LifeWay Christians Resources to release a Bible study for movie.

The small group curriculum resource by Warren is said to be the “perfect companion” to “Son of God,” produced by husband-and-wife team Mark Burnett and Roma Downey. The study became available Feb. 15, two weeks before the movie hits theaters Feb. 28.

“Son of God: The Life of Jesus in You” is a DVD small group Bible study, which features Warren explaining how you can find your purpose in studying the life of Jesus, and is available at LifeWay Stores and www.lifeway.com/n/Product-Family/Son-of-God.

“There’s nothing more important you can do with your life than spending time getting to know Jesus,” said Warren. “Through the Son of God study, people will receive practical teaching on the life of Jesus and its impact on individual lives and life purpose. Jesus’ teaching trans forms from the inside out.”

The six-session study features video clips from the theatrical movie and custom videos from Pastor Warren explaining Jesus’ teachings and their impact on people’s lives. Topics include baptism, temptation, suffering, death, resurrection and ministry. Scenes from the movie such as Jesus being baptized by John the Baptist will help illustrate each topic.

Other churches and organizations, ranging in size from 10,000 to 4 million, are distributing tickets for a “Theater Take-Over.” Some pastors will also buy out screens showing the film in Spanish and Korean. There’s even a Catholic “Theater Take-Over” planned for Miami.

The Hollywood Reporter story also stated that various business leaders throughout the country are also donating tickets to churches and non-profits.

“Son of God” is a version of the hit “The Bible” miniseries, featuring new and used footage, focused just on the story of Jesus Christ. The Bible averaged 11.4 million viewers during its five-week run on the History Channel and became the top-selling miniseries on DVD of all time.

Mark Burnett and wife Roma Downey, said in a statement, “We’re very excited that the community is mobilizing to support ‘Son of God.’ The grass roots support is so important and the faith community is amazing when it mobilizes. Our hope is that the story and message of Jesus Christ will reach tens of millions of people nationwide.”

Burnett and Downey promoted the film at last week’s National Prayer Breakfast in Washington, D.C., where President Obama spoke to an audience of religious and secular leaders from around the world.

“We are going to spend around $10 million on commercials, and that is nothing. You may not even see a commercial for this. … The only chance we’ve got is the church community spreading the word,” Burnett said at the prayer breakfast, where 30 minutes of the film was shown to the audience. “We carried the backpack so far. We made it; we unbelievably got it in theaters everywhere. It’s now a great time for people to bring groups and bring people with them who need this message, who need to know who Jesus is.”

To find out more about the film, and see the trailer, go to www.sonofgodmovie.com.

Shields of Strength to share God’s word at Sochi Olympics

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By Tonya Whitaker
Inside The Pew

An athletic ministry and a Christian jewelry company have found the perfect way to put Christ on the minds of the athletes who arePhilippians 4:13 taking part in the Sochi Winter Olympics.

Shields of Strength, along with Athletes in Action (AIA), a ministry of Cru (formerly called Campus Crusade for Christ), will minister to coaches and competing athletes by providing spiritual, emotional, and mental support in the multi-faith center of the Olympic Village.

Team member and Olympic Chaplain Carl Dambman has been ministering to Olympic athletes in both the summer and winter games for the past 33 years. He said a dozen AIA staff and volunteers will distribute the shields to athletes who are seeking God’s word.

“The world’s eyes are on heroes of the sports fields, and we want to strengthen and encourage them as people watch them relying on God as their Creator, their Savior, and the One who gave them the talents to perform,” Dambman said.

“If the Shields of Strength can help them in their walk with the Lord, then we’re all for partnering with whoever wants to lift up Christ.”

Kenny Vaughan, founder of Shields of Strength, said that the company has donated over one million of the three million shields they produced to individuals, the U.S. military, churches, and ministries such as AIA. Both Vaughan and Dambman find that the organizations’ new partnership works well.

“Our missions align well because we can give them a tool to help them share Christ through a one-on-one relationship,” Vaughan said.

Vaughan said he understands the fear and pressure that Olympians experience during competition. While trying to win a U.S. Nationals for the water ski long jump, he described a comparable feeling that he was insufficient.

“The unique thing about an athlete, especially in the Olympics, is that they are prepared for pressure,” he said. “But until that momentJoshua 1:9 when you should be disciplined, it’s then when you find yourself saying, ‘God I need you.’ Right then is when you’re even weaker than you realized.

“Athletes in competition think if they have enough courage, they can overcome fear. But really that thought is the trap of life. And it’s not courage, but love that overcomes fear. It’s the courage to love that makes us courageous. That’s the message of God’s word, and Athletes in Action is taking advantage of this opportunity to share that truth.”

During his time of doubt and fear, Vaughan’s girlfriend (now wife), Tammie, wrote scriptures on his ski equipment, which, through God’s power, found their way into his heart and eased his fears. This led Vaughan to inscribe verses onto dog tags and wear them underneath his shirt.

From that first shield, Shields of Strength has grown to also include women’s jewelry and other accessories, like key chains and athletic tape. Seventeen years later, the company hopes that the shields can help Olympians as they face the same trials during competition.

“Love doesn’t always guarantee a win in life; it just ensures we compete with all we have and that gives us a better chance to win,” Vaughan said.

According to Vaughan, the shields have be found on the battlefield and the football field, providing encouragement as a simple reminder to new and established Christians alike.

Learn more about Shields of Strength at www.shieldsofstrength.com.

Charity sale of Pope Francis’ Harley-Davidson causes media storm

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By Dan Wooding
Founder of ASSIST Ministries

ROME, ITALY (ANS) – Since the announcement at the beginning of January that Bonhams auctioneers is to sell Pope Francis’ Pope FrancisHarley-Davidson and leather jacket, the news has reached more than 50 countries worldwide and generated more than 500 articles of international news coverage.

A news release stated that to mark the 110th anniversary of the motorcycle brand, Pope Francis was presented with the 1,585cc Harley-Davidson Dyna Super Glide and a motorcycle jacket in June 2013.

This rare and exceptional opportunity to own what was the property of the “People’s Pope” has captured the world’s imagination, generating a huge amount of interest in the items, which are to be auctioned for charity by Bonhams at the Grand Palais in Paris on Feb. 6.

The Sale, which is taking place as part of the capital’s Rétromobile Week, will see the motorcycle and the jacket raise funds for Caritas Roma, which works on behalf of the Roman Catholic Church to support those in need around the world.

They were donated to the charity by Pope Francis, who is famous for his work with the poor and his preference for modest modes of transport. Keeping charity and transport at the forefront of his mind, the Harley-Davidson, which has an estimate of $16,000-$20,000, is to be sold with no reserve in aid of Caritas Roma.

Funds raised by the sale will go towards the renovation of the charity’s Don Luigi di Liegro hostel and soup kitchen based at Rome’s Termini railway station.

The hostel opened 30 years ago to help the homeless, jobless and the poor, and the money raised by the Harley-Davidson’s sale will allow it to continue to provide food and accommodation to more than 1,000 people in need every day.

Signed on the fuel-tank by his Holiness at a special ceremony at the Vatican in November, the machine is offered with a Papal Certificate signed by his Holiness’s personal secretary and a certificate of conformity from Harley-Davidson.

James Knight, group director of the Bonhams motoring department, said: “This is an almost unheard of opportunity to those who wish to support such a worthy cause. In return for supporting the charity, the winning bidder will be the proud owner of a unique and desirable collectors’ item of memorabilia. We have customers who have expressed a desire to own both the motorcycle and jacket, but others with a preference for just one item. It will be interesting to see if both stay together.”

The Harley-Davidson and leather jacket will be sold on Feb. 6 as part of Bonhams’ Les Grandes Marques du Monde sale at the Grand Palais in Paris.

Bonhams, founded in 1793, is one of the world’s largest auctioneers of fine art and antiques. The present company was formed by the merger in November 2001 of Bonhams & Brooks and Phillips Son & Neale.

TBN to host annual pre-Super Bowl special featuring player interviews

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Sunday, Feb. 2, 2014, is the biggest game of year; and, on Jan. 31 at 9 p.m. CST, the Trinity Broadcasting Network will get viewers ready forSuperBowlNYNJ Super Bowl XLVIII with a two-hour faith-and-football special from New York City, featuring on-the-field interviews with members of both the Denver Broncos and the Seattle Seahawks, as well as appearances by NFL and other sports greats, along with impacting stories about how faith in God has made a difference in the lives of athletes.

Hosted each year by former NFL player Mike Barber, TBN’s annual Super Bowl pre-game warm-up has featured impacting interviews with many past and present NFL legends, including Kurt Warner, the late Reggie White, Joe Theismann, Aaron Rodgers, Aeneas Williams, Roman Phifer, Don Beebe, and Adam Vinatieri, to name just a few.

Slated for this year’s TBN pre-game special will be segments featuring both team quarterbacks – the Denver’s Peyton Manning and Seattle’s 2012 NFL Rookie of the Year Russell Wilson – along with Super Bowl Media Day interviews with other game-changers such as Seattle’s Chris Maragos, Clint Gresham, and Russell Okung, and Denver’s Jacob Tamme and Joel Dresson.

“We’re excited about this year’s lineup for TBN’s pre-Super Bowl show,” Barber said. “This program is about more than just football. It’s men talking about how Christ has made a difference in their lives, in their families, and even in how they approach the game. This is going to be a life-changing show for our viewers.”

TBN Vice President Matthew Crouch said TBN’s annual Super Bowl pre-game “Praise the Lord” show is one of the network’s most popular and anticipated specials.

“We’ve been hosting this for the past fifteen years, and the list of past guests and participants reads like an NFL ‘Who’s Who,'” he said. “This year’s Super Bowl is sure to be one of the most exciting in history, and we’re looking forward to connecting with some of the players at TBN’s special pre-game warm-up.”

Round: Waiting on God is hard

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By Carol Round
Special to Inside The Pew

“I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits, and in His Word I put my hope.”—Psalm 130:5 (NIV).

We wait in line at the grocery store, the post office, a concession stand and other places requiring us to be patient. Waiting is hard. WeWaiting don’t want to wait. We want it now.

In a 1978 edition of “Good Housekeeping” magazine, a recipe for Hummingbird Cake appeared. Submitted by a Mrs. L.H. Wiggins of North Carolina, the cake took only 60 minutes of hands-on time. However, the cake—made from scratch—required 8-10 hours before it could be sliced and served.

Using over-ripe bananas, toasted pecans and crushed pineapple, along with the other necessary cake ingredients, the batter was poured into three well-greased and floured 9-inch cake pans, baked and then cooled for at least an hour. The next step called for a homemade cream cheese custard filling, a decadent mixture to be spread between the cake layers. However, after boiling, the cream cheese mixture had to cool at room temperature for at least an hour before being placed in the refrigerator to be chilled for another six to 24 hours. The final step in this famed cake recipe is a browned butter frosting, which required another hour to an hour and half prep and chilling time before completion.

 

That was 35 years ago. Times have changed. Most of us don’t want to spend that much time preparing, let alone waiting over 24 hours, to eat a cake. Most of us grab a cake mix and canned frosting off the grocery shelf to make a cake in less than two hours.

Waiting on God is also difficult. It’s frustrating. We want answers now. Wouldn’t it be nice to pick up the phone, dial a number and get God on the other end to give us an immediate answer? However, it doesn’t work that way. He always answers in His timing with good reasons for making us wait. For example, Mary and Martha waited on Jesus to come heal their brother, Lazarus. When Jesus finally shows up, He is accused of taking too long. In the wait, His plans were perfected.

Waiting is one of God’s tools to develop His people. If you look at Psalm 130:5 closely, the psalmist mentions not only waiting for the Lord but also placing his hope in God’s Word. If we read and study the Bible stories of those who waited on God, we can find encouragement. Remember, Abraham waited 25 years, Moses waited 40 and Jesus waited 30. God uses the times of waiting to transform our character but He never asks us to wait without Him. The great heroes of the Bible went through difficulties and hardshipsCarol Round but God was with them in the trenches.

Pastor John Ortberg said, “Biblically, waiting is not just something we have to do until we get what we want. Waiting is part of the process of becoming what God wants us to be.”

While waiting, trust God in the process.

Carol Round is author of the weekly syndicated column “A Matter of Faith.” She resides in Claremore, Okla.  Need a speaker for your women’s event? Email carolaround@yahoo.com.

 

 

Movie chronicles work of homeless shelters advocate Kathy DiFiore

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By Ginny McCabe
Special to ASSIST News Service

LOS ANGELES (ANS) – Based on real-life stories of hope and transformation, Gimme Shelter opened in theaters Jan. 24.gimme-shelter-poster

This new Roadside Attractions film celebrates the life and work of Several Sources Shelters Founder, Leader and Women’s Issues Advocate, Kathy DiFiore. DiFiore has worked hand-in-hand with Mother Teresa and her powerful influence changed the shelter laws in New Jersey. She has also been honored by three American presidents and recognized at the UN for her life-changing work.

Award-winning filmmaker Ronald Krauss directed the film and penned the movie’s original screenplay, while spending a year in one of DiFiore’s shelters for pregnant teens. His writing reflects upon their lives and chronicles the challenging journey. Based on a true story, Gimme Shelter centers on a 16-year-old pregnant teenager, Agnes “Apple” Bailey, (Vanessa Hudgens) who flees a drug-ridden mother (Rosario Dawson) in search of a better life of her own. Turned away by her Wall Street father, (Brendan Fraser) Apple is forced into a life on the streets. The film is rated PG-13.

“(Gimme Shelter) will remind young women that they have choices,” said the film’s star Vanessa Hudgens. “When we see someone like Kathy doing a great job serving others, we should recognize and honor them. We’re all in this together and when we embrace that we begin to come together as a community.”

What makes this inspirational drama so riveting is that DiFiore’s own life story and experiences are as compelling as any blockbuster film. As a suburban wife and mother, she escaped an abusive marriage, which left her herself homeless and on the street. In reclaiming her life, DiFiore’s recovery fueled a desire to help others turn their lives around. When she made her home a shelter for un-wed, pregnant women, the State of New Jersey raided it and levied huge fines for running an illegal boarding house. As a devout Catholic Christian woman, she decided to reach out to none other than Mother Teresa.

“Together they fought the state and managed to change the law,” said Ronald Krauss. “Now she runs five shelters in New Jersey that give people a chance to get back on their feet by providing them with education and helping them get jobs. Her shelters are run 100 percent on donations, without any public funding, for 35 years now.”

DiFiore first welcomed a pregnant teen in her own home in 1981. Since that time, she has tirelessly devoted her life to helping others. Her faith-inspired testimony continues to offer compassion and spread hope.

“Through God’s Grace, we save babies’ lives and shelter their young mothers while providing education and ongoing compassionate support services including our Pregnancy Sonogram Center. We further educate young people to make healthy life choices. We also shelter women who are homeless, sick and elderly as we help them to restore their dignity,” said DiFiore, about the primary purpose behind her life’s work.

“Women who go against the tide and have their baby become that child’s hero. It comes down to their choices, but it’s not always an easy road. Many of them are forced to leave their family and turn to a shelter. I can’t help but admire them. They are changing the ‘culture of death’ into a culture of life and I want to help them have a better life,” DiFiore said.

For more about the movie, or to find a theater near you, go to www.GimmeShelterTheMovie.com.

 

Americans celebrate MLK holiday with host of commemorative events

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On what would have been the 85th birthday of the Civil Rights leader, a host of organizations are holding commemorative events inRon Sims honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Below are some of the events submitted to us.

In Seattle, Wash., the second annual Martin Luther King Jr. Prayer Breakfast will honor local leaders with the Vision From the Mountaintop Award on Jan. 20 beginning at 7 a.m. at the Westin Hotel, 1900 5th Ave. Ron Sims, deputy secretary for the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development, will deliver the keynote address at the breakfast. The Rev. Allen A. Belton, Senior Partner at Reconciliation Ministries with Breakthrough Partners and The Beloved Community of the Puget Sound Area in cooperation with the Martin Luther King, Jr. Celebration Committee are collaborators of the breakfast.

In Grand Rapids, Mich., Bishop P.A. Brooks, founder of New St. Paul Tabernacle Church of God in Christ in Detroit, will speak during a chapel service at 10 a.m. at Cornerstone University. The Cornerstone University Multi-Cultural Organization will host Bishop Brooks as part of the campus MLK celebration. “Bishop Brooks will share historical moments from his personal relationships with Dr. King, Rosa Park and Mandela,” said Eric Lewis, multicultural advisor on campus.

In Charlotte, N.C., the YMCA of Greater Charlotte will host its 20th annual MLK Prayer Breakfast at the Charlotte Convention Center’sHilton Harper Crown Ballroom from 8 to 9:30 a.m. The keynote speaker is actor Hill Harper. Best known for his role as Dr. Sheldon Hawkes on CSI: NY, Harper is also a graduate of Harvard Law School and the author of New York Times best seller “Letters to a Young Brother: Manifest Your Destiny.” As a special gift to the city of Charlotte and in honor of the event’s 20th year, the YMCA will show a video titled DREAM Charlotte: A Tribute from the Voices of Charlotte’s Living Generations.

In Chattanooga, Tenn., Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi, will speak to students at the McCallie School for boy on his grandfather’s philosophy and the role that it played in shaping both Dr. King and the American Civil Rights Movement on Jan. 20. King once called Gandhi “the guiding light of our technique of nonviolent social change.” McCallie Headmaster Dr. Kirk Walker said, “We are very pleased that our school community can salute Dr. Martin Luther King’s life and legacy by hearing from the grandson of Mahatma Gandhi, a man whose vision and work served as an inspiration to Dr. King. Their message of hope and nonviolence remains as important today as it was in the last century.”

On Jan. 17, the student body of Indiana Wesleyan University held a wide celebration to honor King. The MLK Celebration Concert, Living the Dream, took place in the auditorium of the Phillippe Performing Arts Center on the main campus of Indiana Wesleyan University in Marion, IN. Indiana Wesleyan University is an evangelical Christian comprehensive university of The Wesleyan Church. The University, founded in 1920, is committed to global liberal arts and professional education.

Eggerichs: How to get the respect you’ve wanted from your kids in ’14

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By Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.
Special to Inside The Pew

Years ago when I was a pastor, I was speaking at a Christian summer camp. I was about to give the evening message and my son David,Emerson Eggerich who was around age ten, was misbehaving because he wanted to do something that we did not have time to do at the moment. I distinctly remember feeling: This child is purposely defying me. He is showing me disrespect to retaliate for not getting his way.

I took David out to our car, where I hoped to reason with him. He sat in the backseat; I sat in the front. I tried to get him to talk but got only cold silence, which made me feel more and more disrespected. Finally, I angrily bawled him out for his disrespect, but that only made David more convinced I was being unfair and unloving. He stared out the window with no remorse or apology—only silence—and it ended in a stalemate. I had to speak in a few minutes, so I had David accompany me to the auditorium, where I addressed the crowd as best I could, all the while feeling like a complete hypocrite because of my horrible parenting.

When kids do not listen to parents, at some level, parents feel disregarded and disrespected. But what else is going on from the child’s perspective? I want to give you a game plan for raising your kids, no matter what their age. To help you build this game plan, there are two basic principles to understand and apply to all ages and stages:

  1. Kids need love
  2. Parents need respect

The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.

When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent does not declare, “You don’t love me!” Instead the parent concludes, “You are being disrespectful right now.” A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts. When upset, a child does not whine, “You don’t respect me.” Instead, a child pouts, “You don’t love me.” A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.

The good news is that when children feel loved, they are motivated to respond positively to parents, and when parents feel respected, they are energized to be lovingly affectionate with their kids. When these needs are met, good things happen in the family.

But, of course, the reverse happens all too often. An unloved child reacts negatively in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent reacts negatively in a way that feels unloving to the child. We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction. This dynamic gives birth to the Family Crazy Cycle: without love a child reacts without respect; and without respect, a parent reacts without love.

Parents need and want the respect that Scripture plainly says is their due: “Honor your father and your mother” (Exodus 20:12) is one of many passages where children are clearly told to honor and respect their parents. And children need and want the love and sensitive understanding that Scripture teaches parents to give them. See Titus 2:4, Ephesians 6:4, and Colossians 3:21 for just a few examples of where parental responsibilities are mentioned or described.

As I reflect on that scene where I blew it with David, it never occurred to me that he may have been feeling unloved. Perhaps he just wanted time with me and was feeling left out. If I had addressed the situation with that understanding, could this conflict have been avoided? It is hard to be sure, but one thing is for sure: my angry outburst accusing him of being disrespectful did not help him open his heart to me. I could have decoded him much better, but I did not know then what I know now. What I had to learn, by trial and error, is that parenting is for adults only, and as adults we need to learn to decode what’s going on between us and our kids.

For example, there’s not always a clear-cut “yes or no” answer to the question, “Is my child feeling unloved?” It is entirely possible that he is acting this way out of childish irresponsibility, selfishness, or even open defiance. He is unhappy, he is just not getting his way, and he is letting you know it. On the other hand, there are times when parents can start the Family Crazy Cycle by overreacting to kids just being kids. Our rigidity and negativity are perceived as unloving to our children, who then feel unfairly judged, and now we have entered the Family Crazy Cycle.

All we may want for Christmas is respect…but demanding it from our kids all year long will not help them to feel loved. In fact, it will have the opposite effect and the Family Crazy Cycle will keep spinning! As parents we need to decode and make the first move. As we begin to see love and respect as basic family needs we will be able to stop this cycle of conflict and work towards harmony in our home.

Emerson Eggerichs is the author of Love & Respect in the Family: The Respect Parents Desire, the Love Children Need (Thomas Nelson Publishers). Eggerichs, a resident of Grand Rapids, Mich., is founder and president of Love & Respect Ministries and holds 30-plus years of pastoring and counseling experience and extensive scientific and biblical research. Eggerichs earned a master’s degree in divinity from Dubuque Seminary and a Ph.D. from Michigan State in child and family ecology. He has been married for 40 years and is the father of three grown children.

NFL ties, Christian entrepreneurship rank as top reads on Pew for ’13

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By Jacob Trimmer
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A Christian clothing line founded by a former NFL player ranks as the top read story on Inside The Pew for 2013.

Mark Clayton, who was drafted by the Baltimore Ravens in 2005, launched his own clothing line – My Christian T – back in 2011.Mark Clayton Although Clayton confirmed with Inside The Pew on Twitter in 2012 that he no longer operates the clothing, there is still an interest in the wide receiver’s entrepreneurial aspirations.

Clayton was traded to the St. Louis Rams in 2010, but injuries signed the Oklahoma Sooner’s career in the NFL. He told Sean Devine of Did You See That?! in September he has no regrets about his NFL playing days.

“Every minute, every experience, every relationship, I’ll never forget any of it. I’m working hard to come back and I hope to continue my career. Hopefully we can add some more stories, relationships, and experiences to my legacy.”

Three other sports related stories made the top 10. The filming of a biopic on high school football coach Bob Ladouceur in New Orleans came in at No. 4, while stories about Super Bowl XLVII coaches (and brothers) Jim Harbaugh and John Harbaugh were ranked No. 7 and  No. 8, respectively.

The story of Tyres Dixon, a Houston resident who works for the United Way and winner of the nonprofit organization’s Achiever of the Year, landed at No. 2 on the list.

Three stories from the Pew Business spotlight landed in the top 10. Whitening Lightning founder Jennifer Gerard (No. 3), National Association for the Exchange of Industrial Resources (NAEIR) president and CEO Gary C. Smith (No. 9), and Ezechiel “Zeke” Bambolo and First Born Son Inc. (No. 5) made the annual list.

Grelan Muse Sr., founder of Inside The Pew, was pleased at the amount of popularity generated by the spotlight. The section was officially launched in March.

“When we created the section, we wanted to help boost the presence of like-minded entrepreneurs who take Him in to the workplace every day. These types of stories are what our readers want to see. Hopefully, Christians who are considering entrepreneurship can draw from the stories of these individuals.”

Fly Away Records and its Rhythm of Gospel Music Award nominations (No. 10) and Melanie Stone’s column on the attributes of a Kingdom builder (No. 6) rounded out the top 10.

List of top stories

  1. NFL wide receiver launcher clothing line to give glory to God
  2. Goodwill Industries names Houston man 2013 Achiever of the Year
  3. Gerard to fellow entrepreneurs: Trust Him, great things will occur
  4. Filming of Bob Ladouceur movie takes place in New Orleans
  5. The First Born Son Inc. helps restore individuals and families
  6. Stone: Five marks of a kingdom builder
  7. Side of 49ers coach Jim Harbaugh we don’t see everyday
  8. John Harbaugh slated keynote speaker at FCA Maryland event
  9. NAEIR redistributes corporations’ unsold products to nonprofits
  10. Fly Away Records snags Rhythm of Gospel Award nod