Muse: What to do when forgiving is the hardest thing

By Pastor Grelan Muse Sr.
Inside The Pew

Remember the talkshow from years back called “Forgive or Forget”?

The program was hosted by Mother Love and Robin Givens, and individuals went on the show to discuss horrible events in their lives. The offender and the hurt individual discussed the situation amongst themselves and with the audience. At the end of each segment, the host asked the hurt individual if he or she would forgive or forget the act.

For some people, that is a difficult question to answer. Do you forgive the person yet never forget what they did? Or, do you hang on to the anguish and anger of the past wrong?

One of our followers on Twitter presented a thought-provoking answer to the question. He posted his answer as a health tip: “Pray for then sincerely FORGIVE someone who hurt you and you’ll soon feel better spiritually AND physically.”

Possessing a negative mind keeps you from experiencing the peace Christ Jesus has given to each of us. Do not allow the past to dictate your future. Colossians 3:13 reads, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (NIV). It is God who forgives us daily for our missteps, so it is only fitting that you pray to overcome your woes, and pray for the person who has offended you. I will admit that forgiveness is a hard step to take, but as Christians we must let it go and move on. Forgiveness is the just thing to do, and it is required because our Heavenly Father tells us to do so. Paul said in Romans 12:12 and Romans 12:17 that we must be patient in affliction and faithful in prayer and not repay evil for evil (NIV).

There are many people I have encountered through the years in ministry who have been hurt by a loved one – mother, father, sibling, spouse, etc. There seems to be no closure in their minds or in their hearts. What eventually happens is these individuals began to transfer their negative energy onto other people. But, praying, shedding some tears, and talking about their situation will allow people to release that negative energy and live a renewed life that is not filled with stress.

It is my prayer that individuals who deal with forgiving someone remember that Christ promises in Matthew 6: 14-15 that “if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men of their sins, Your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Grelan Muse Sr. is founder of Emanuel and The Mainline Ministries Inc. (www.emmnetwork.org), a 501 (c) 3 nonprofit organization, and Inside The Pew (www.insidethepew.net). Connect with us @PewTalk on Twitter and @Inside The Pew on Facebook.

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