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Colbert: Fulfill the purpose God has in store for you

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By Aimee Colbert
Special to Inside The Pew

Editor’s note: This is an excerpt from Aimee Colbert’s book, “A Sense of Destiny: From The Prison To The Palace,” which is available on Amazon.com.

Your destiny is your discovery not your decision.

We all have some idea of what we would like to do with our lives but as Christians it is not our place to decide that our opinion mattersAimee Colbert more than God’s.

Our lives are a gift and we are put here in order to give our lives as a gift back to God. So once we understand that God created us for a purpose, it’s our responsibility to fulfill whatever purpose that might be. So when you find out that you have a purpose, it’s time to stop thinking about what you would like to do with your life to make money or to fulfill your desires for accomplishment in some other way. It’s now time to learn how to pursue your real purpose.

Fortunately, our true purpose is actually something that we would already want to do. It’s something that we are already doing hidden in what we do every single day. I feel that once we decide that we want to do something opposite of what God would have us do, we are living in rebellion to God.

Not everyone knows that they have a purpose but if you know that you have a purpose and you decide that you don’t care about what that purpose is or that you’re not interested in doing what God would have you do, I feel you are living in open rebellion to the will of God. What God wants you to do should matter to you if you say that you love Him.

Evangelist and author Aimee Colbert is the author of “The Irreplaceable Woman,” “The Drama Free Life,” “Dear Carlos,” “To Be A Man of God,” “Aimee’s Advice,” I’m Just Sayin’ Vol 1&2,” “You’re Stupid & Shallow So Stay Single Ya Dummy,” “The Irreplaceable Man,” and “I Survived,” which discusses the social issues that affect us all and that bind us together. She practices as a pastoral counselor in Fort Worth. Visit www.aimeecolbert.com.

Media is not alone in need to learn more about mental health

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By Tonya Whitaker
Inside The Pew

When the news that Newtown, Conn., school massacre shooter Adam Lanza had Asperger’s Syndrome, the media immediately began to spew false information about autism. Autism is a neurodevelopment disorder, not a mental illness. Since the Dec. 14 attack that left 20 children and six adults dead, professionals who work in mental health and parents of children with autism and Asperger’s Syndrome have taken a stand to educate the public.

“They (the media) are trying to connect some dots, because that is what they do,” said Aimee Colbert, a pastoral counselor in Fort Worth. “Without knowing the truth is irresponsible, it is bad on their part. This type of reaction is especially trying on the people who have to deal with it.”

The media is not the only institution that needs help understanding mental health and developmental disorders; the church does too.

For years, the mental health community has felt the church needs to step beyond reading scripture and prayer to help parents and children of their congregations.

In 2011, author Edward Rogers, and psychologist Matthew Stanford and social worker Diana Garland of Baylor University, found in their study, “The Effects of Mental Illness On Families With Faith Communities,” that “mental illness of a family member can destroy the family’s connection with the religious community, leading many affected families to leave the church and their faith behind.”

The study, which appeared in the online journal “Mental Health, Religion, and Culture,” interviewed 6,000 participants from 24 churches representing four Protestant denominations. Researchers examined the impact of mental illness in a family on church involvement and spiritual practices. Stanford told Dr. Steve Grcevich in a February 2012 interview that approximately a quarter of the families in the survey are struggling with caring for a loved one with mental illness and it has disrupted their connect with God.

“Sadly, these families appear virtually invisible to the congregation as a whole,” said Stanford, who is a professor of psychology, neuroscience, and biomedical studies at Baylor University.

Colbert’s thoughts echo of the article. She said churches should do more to address the mental and behavioral needs of their congregants, especially in the African American church.

“It is one of the things that has become a cancer, a virus. Now people are doing off-the-wall things. The church is about meeting needs, if your church has people with mental illness, it must be addressed. There are a lot of things outside of the Bible people need to know. The Bible is not against these things because the Bible doesn’t say it, Colbert said.

“I know of people who feel ashamed. They either feel isolated even stop going to church.”

Ready to make a change?

Is your congregation in need of additional sources to help the children and parents who are affected by mental health and behavioral disorders? Church Basement Press, publisher of titles that support the work of faith-based community organizations, recently published “Defying Mental Illness: Finding Recovery with Community Resources and Family Support” ($19.99 paperback and Nook; $7.99 Kindle, USD). The authors – Paul Komarek and Andrea Schroer – provide help on recovery. It is more than a source for support. The book educates readers on several topics, including childhood disorders, mental illness, suicide prevention, and mental illness in layman’s terms. The book is endorsed by a National Alliance on Mental Illness advocate, who said the book “provides what’s needed most.”

Learn more about Church Basement Press at www.churchbasement.net.

‘Fireproof’ marriages conference slated for Oct. 6 in Fort Worth

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By Donald Lee
Special to Inside The Pew

The movie “Fireproof,” starring Kirk Cameron, opens with the scene that shows Cameron’s character, Fire Capt. Caleb Holt, reprimanding a subordinate after they return from fighting a fire.

“Eric, he’s got a right to be upset with you,” the captain says immediately after another fireman rebukes that subordinate, Eric Harmon (Jason McLeod). “You left him in a dangerous spot and tried to be a hero.”

“But Captain,” Eric responds, “I thought I heard someone calling for help.”

“It was coming from outside the building,” the captain interjects.

“But it was so dark, I mean I couldn’t see anything,” Eric tries to explain.

That’s why you stay with your partner,” the captain says. “He had no choice but to assume that something happened to you and you needed his help. You never leave your partner — especially in a fire.

“You give him some time and then give him an apology,” he says. “And make it sincere.”

“Yes, Sir,” Eric responds.

Capt. Holt pats Eric on the back and then walks off.

While the captain approaches his job of putting out literal fires with great passion and wisdom, the film is about how he lacks that same zeal and is ignorant when it comes to extinguishing the metaphoric fires that threaten his marriage.

This movie is an accurate depiction of so many real-life marriages. Husbands and wives, in many marital relationships, put their hearts and souls into their careers or rendering aid to others while failing to protect their own “partners” in marriage.

For reasons such as this, the Christian Couples Conference in the Fort Worth area I co-sponsor with faith-based counselor Aimee Colbert is held quarterly. The conference, slated for Oct. 6 at Grace Church in Haltom City, just north of Fort Worth, will highlight ways couples can “fireproof” their marriages. This will be the second conference; the first was on July 7.

Bishop Lynn Morrison Jr., senior pastor of Word of Faith Christian Church in Baton Rouge, La., will be the guest speaker. The topics he will teach on are “Fireproofing Your Marriage” and “Teen Dating.” Bishop Morrison and his wife, JoAnn, have been married 40 years and have four adult children and 11 grandchildren.

Colbert will speak on “The Mistress’ Mindset,” which addresses identifying which women are at risk of becoming mistresses. She will offer her expertise on how to help habitual mistresses escape that behavioral pattern.

Baton Rouge gospel recording artist Anita Jarrell-Robertson, known for her hit single “Even Me,” will perform at the conference.

For more information about the daylong conference, including free registration and session times, visit Christian Couples Conference, or call Colbert at 817-564-5289.

The conference is for married couples, singles and divorcees.

20 signs that he/she is NOT the one

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Editor’s note: This is an excerpt from “Reality Check: Relationships” by Aimee Colbert.

By Aimee Colbert
Special to Inside The Pew

Many times after a relationship is over, people wonder where things went wrong. Sometimes they wonder why they didn’t see

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the signs that their ex was not the right one for them. These thoughts can go round and round a person’s mind but without real answers, they won’t be able to avoid the same thing happening to them in the future. It’s not hard to read people. The issue here is that when someone is overtaken by the excitement of feeling in love, they often times are too distracted to notice red flags.

1. They don’t laugh at your jokes.

What you find humorous is the authentic you. When someone doesn’t laugh at what you do, it shows that you have a major difference in reasoning on a neurological level. In short, they don’t get you and when someone doesn’t get you, it’s hard for them to like you.
2. They are annoyed by what you enjoy.

You’re not going to be exactly alike and you shouldn’t be but when the person you’re with doesn’t understand what makes you happy, they won’t be able to make you happy or show support when you need it.
3. They don’t like talking to you for a long time.

Someone who isn’t really into you will not be able to endure you long term. After a while, they’ll become less and less interested in having talks with you. This is an indicator that you’re on two different pages.
4. They ignore you unless you’re doing something that they like or want you to do.

If your mate ignores you unless you’re doing what they want, giving them something they want, they’re using you. Whether they’re using you emotionally, sexually or financially, they’re using you and you’ll know by a feeling that you are being used. A person that uses you isn’t interested in your happiness and doesn’t respect you.

5. They don’t show concern when you’re hurt.

When you’re with someone who doesn’t really love you, it’s easy to see. Love is obvious. When someone loves you, they share your pain. When you hurt, they hurt. They sense when you’re hurting and they react to your pain. The rest of the signs are outlined in my book “Reality Check: Relationships.” In it, I cover many topics, ranging from questions that every person should ask before getting married to neuropsychological reasons why people enter into and endure bad relationships.

Aimee Colbert of Fort Worth is an ordained minister, author and public speaker. Follow her on Facebook and on Twitter @AimeeTweets4U. For more relationship content from Colbert, visit www.christiancouplesconference.com