By Tonya Andris
Inside The Pew
When Finch was 11 years old, his father committed suicide. For decades, Finch didn’t understand how to handle life like a man because he didn’t have a male figure in the home to guide him. This loss came to an end when God intervened.
Finch said a friend brought to Finch’s attention that he had some unresolved issues with his father’s death that led to his scattered view of what it is to be a man.
Based on this experience, Finch said he created The Perfect Father. He said the nonprofit organization exists to create awareness in fathers and realize their impact in what they say and do as dads.
To emphasize the role father’s play in the lives of children, Finch created a documentary based on his personal trials, “The Father Effect.”
“Essentially my problems were rooted in anger for my father. I had this father wound and I need to take care of that. I had to practice forgiveness and understand the power of that. Until I forgave my dad, I could not be the man, the husband, and father that God wanted to me.”
The first 30 minutes of the film is Finch’s story and testimony. The remainder of the film showcases counselors, pastors, and ordinary people discussing the importance of a father’s presence in the lives of children. Interviews from John Eldridge, best-selling author “Wild At Heart And Fathered By God” and Meg Meeker, author of “Strong Fathers Strong Daughters” are included in the documentary.
“I feel that other men needed to hear these stories,” the Denton resident said. “Most men don’t understand the power and influence they have as a men. When someone experiences this, you are going to have a wound, whether you are man or a woman.
Finch said the organization is in the process of completing the full-length film, but additional funds are need to make the full-length version a reality.
The documentary’s filming process has helped Finch become more appreciative of his family and his daughters.
“I walk in a daily awareness,” he said.