Wright: Getting marriages ‘back to basics’

By Todd Wright
Special to Inside The Pew

Books and articles on marriage enrichment are a dime a dozen and for the most part are “inspirational” in nature with little focus on the word of God.  Obviously secular works ignore the word of God, but those of the Christian variety often do not fare much better.

I was chatting with a new friend this week, and he made the point that believers need to get back to basics.  We have strayed

Fonny and Todd Wright

too far down the road of human viewpoint and need to make our way back to God’s perfect, divine viewpoint, the means by which we are to live the Christian life.  This is especially true in our marriages.

Let us first ask the most basic question: “Why are we here?”  As believers we know that God created us to bring glory to Himself (Proverbs 16:4, Isaiah 43:7,21, Psalms 86:9, 1 Corinthians 8:6, 10:31, Ephesians 1:11-12, etc.).  Suffice it to say the marriage of believers is a primary means by which to glorify our Father in Heaven.  The number one objective which must drive every discussion about the Christian marriage is that the marriage must glorify God.  For spiritually mature couples, this message frames every other discussion about every aspect of the marriage.  The husband should, above all else, glorify God.  The wife should, above all else, glorify God.  The marriage should, above all else, glorify God.

While spiritually mature couples are obedient to the passages above regarding bringing glory to God, spiritually immature couples, more often than not, seek happiness for themselves.  They seek self-gratification at the expense of bringing glory to God.  The solution for these believers is found in the word of God.  With knowledge of the word of God comes spiritual maturity.  The Bible speaks repeatedly of the importance of knowledge, wisdom, and an understanding of the scriptures.  As believers learn the principles of Bible doctrine, they begin to apply the teachings to their lives.  Bible doctrine is the solution to every problem.  It is the solution to every marriage problem a believer may encounter.  Without knowledge of Bible doctrine, spiritually immature believers are left to their own faulty, human viewpoint reasoning.  They spend their time grasping for happiness.  Many misguided, spiritually immature believers fail miserably in their pursuit of joy, but more importantly, they fail to bring glory to God.

When you are ready to get on the road to spiritual maturity, find a pastor-teacher who teaches the word of God in a systematic and methodical verse-by-verse method.  Ask the pastor- teacher to recommend Bible commentaries and other resources that take you through the doctrines in the scriptures.  The husband should study individually, the wife should study individually, and together the couple should study Bible doctrine.  While gaining in knowledge, wisdom, and understanding of the Bible these spiritually maturing believers are sure to bring glory to God.

Todd is the author of “Marriages That Glorify God.”  He earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology and Sociology from the University of Mary-Hardin Baylor, and a Master of Science Degree in Counseling and Guidance from Texas A&M at Commerce.  He has worked in the field of community mental health for 20 years and has been a Licensed Professional Counselor in Texas for 18 years. He serves as the executive director of a large company providing community mental health services and is the founder of D. Todd Wright Ministries. Todd has been married to his wife, Fonny, for seven years.

One thought on “Wright: Getting marriages ‘back to basics’

  1. Jen_GoingByFaith

    Love this — especially how our marriage is to glorify God. As a person who was once completely misguided, I remember trying to find happiness everywhere but in God — and of course there is no true and lasting happiness but in God. It’s no wonder so many people see divorce as a viable option.

    There’s a post on Generation X Blog today about keeping faith in marriage for the generation dubbed the “divorce generation.” It’s here — good follow up to your post: http://www.jenx67.com/2012/04/gotta-have-faith-in-marriage.html

    God bless!

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