By Donald Lee
Special to Inside The Pew

To anyone anxious about getting into a relationship without first being a complete person: Understand that you cannot be good to anybody else until you can allow God to

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto" (Matthew 6:33).

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto” (Matthew 6:33).

do a work on the inside of you.

When you allow God to smooth out your rough edges, you won’t subject yourself or your children to domestic abuse. When you allow Him to work on you, your tolerance level for foolishness drops to zero. You begin to understand that it’s not about you running a household in your own understanding, but instead about you allowing Christ’s headship to be the final authority in your family. It’s about kingdom principles being applied in the home.

Singles, if your desire is to be married or in a relationship that potentially leads to marriage, the best thing for you to do is to get into the presence of God — to strive to do what is pleasing to Him. Once you get hooked up with Him, then He knows how to connect you with the one who best complements you.

If you’re praying to God for a mate after having submitted yourself totally to His will for your life, the person He has for you will have a spirit that’s the right fit for who you are, and it has nothing to do with sex. It’s just an overwhelmingly special, holy feeling that grips the both of you, a result of having consulted with God sincerely before proceeding.

And when you seek God first before seeking a relationship with someone else, the Lord defines you (see Matthew 6:33). He lets you know who you are. That saves you the heartache that comes with permitting someone else to damage your self-esteem through the definition of you that he wants you

Donald Lee

Donald Lee

to have rather than the one God has given you.

When you allow God to prepare you for someone else, you’ll have a greater appreciation for that person and vice versa. And you can “see” one another. In other words, the two of you can see into one another’s hearts and discern agape love, an authentic, heavenly love — the kind of love that is best expressed through people who are committed whole-heartedly to the Lord.

So, the best way to significantly increase the likelihood of your entering into a truly loving relationship is to simply put God first. He will make you complete.

Donald Lee, co-author of the relationships book “Married to Commitment,” is founder-pastor of Kingdom Living Christian Center in Dallas. He can be contacted at or (225) 773-2248. Visit him online at Follow him on Twitter at @donaldj_lee. You can also write him at P.O. Box 211186, Dallas, TX. 75211. 

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In appreciation to church leadership and recognizing the impact it has on the community, Methodist Charlton Medical Center will host an appreciation luncheon for local pastors and ministry leaders May 29, from 11:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. in the Methodist Charlton auditorium.

Keynote speaker for the event will be Rickie G. Rush, pastor and organizer of The Inspiring Body of Christ Worldwide Ministries (IBOC), one of the most progressive, flourishing ministries in America. Originally organizing with nine members, the church has grown to 14,000-plus members. Rush’s gift as a public speaker has earned him numerous local and national awards and international recognition

Elite News publisher and founder William Blair will also share a patient testimonial on the excellent care he says he received at Methodist Charlton during a recent hospital stay. The luncheon will also feature entertainment and prize drawings.

Methodist Charlton is hosting this fourth annual event to honor pastors and ministry leaders for their dedicated service and commitment to the community.

“We want to express our sincere gratitude to pastors and ministry leaders who serve patients and their families during all hours of the day to provide spiritual support,” said Methodist Charlton President Jonathan S. Davis, FACHE.

The event is an opportunity for attendees to:

  • Learn about the growth and changes taking place at Methodist Charlton
  • Become educated on policies and procedures that will help pastors and ministry leaders better serve patients and their families during pastoral visits
  • Learn more about upcoming community health education seminars at Methodist Charlton
  • Open up a dialogue with hospital leadership to enhance communication and partnerships

For more information or to RSVP for the event, contact Cynthia Mickens, community relations liaison, at 214-947-5204 or

Editor’s note: Archive story from August 3, 2009

By Alejandra Suarez
Inside The Pew

DALLAS – Pastor Owen K. Ross preaches at the Spanish-speaking Christ’s Foundry of the United Methodist Church, a

ministry determined to help immigrants from their everyday lives from politics to spirituality.

With a background in the areas of Latin American studies and political science, Ross said he combines his seminary training

Owen Ross, right, is pastor of Christ's Foundry in Dallas.

with his educational experience to lead Christ’s Foundry.

He said the ministry explores political and economic ramifications that can have an impact on the lives of immigrants who are new to the United States. Christ’s Foundry also tries to educate former U.S. immigrants of the importance of their voting rights and voting participation.

Ross said he learned Spanish through his travels and studying in Mexico and the Dominican Republic. He also served on Peace Corps in Ecuador where he really got exposure to the culture and language which has helped him in his pastoral duties at the Foundry of the United Methodist Church.

Ross said he recalls how a recent trip to Africa motivated him to think about immigration as an ancient and global issue. This idea triggered the theme for his next service which was the association of human immigration and forgiveness.

The ministry holds an all-Spanish worship service Sunday morning 11:30 at Walnut Hill United Methodist Church, north of Walnut Hill and Marsh Lane and at 6 p.m. at its new mission at 3363 Park Lane in Dallas.

“I preached on how I realized immigrants from South Africa’s struggle is parallel to the struggle of immigrants here in the U.S.,” Ross said. “Paul talks about the persecuted Christians and how He prays for them. I found the theme of forgiveness and I related it to my sermon.”

The Christ’s Foundry of the United Methodist Church has several ministries that range from a worker’s association to peer groups. The ministry is dedicated to help members of the community to find work.

“We assist people by connecting with others,” Ross said. “It is a dual ministry. We help them get work in the community, work such as remodeling, cleaning services, painting.”

Ross’ congregation outsources deals with other churches, and they commit to employ people within the community.

In addition, he said the foundry is working on getting funding for ongoing English classes for immigrants who have just moved to the U.S.

Christ’s Foundry, he said, is holistic, meaning its purpose is to help build the person in several areas.

“We intend the ministry to aim to the spiritual being and to the people’s needs,” Ross said.

For more information about Christ’s Foundry of the United Methodist Church, visit