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By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew

Dear La Vonne,

I was raised in an extremely physically and verbally abusive home. I am a grown woman now, 37 years old, and yet I revert to the frightened little girl whenever I am around my father. I need to see him because of family get-togethers. Now that Father’s Day is approaching I am filled with anxiety knowing I will see him. Why can’t I just grow up, forget the past and act like the woman I should be?

Dear Powerful Woman of God,

I am sorry that you were raised in a home that was not safe and was unloving. The consequences of our early beginnings can last a life time if we allow them to. Without knowing much of your story and the woman that you have become, I will seek to answer you assuming it is at least physically safe for you to be around your father. As I begin to answer your question let’s start with the first key being the truth of who you were created to be. God has created you to be a powerful woman of God. He has given you a sound mind with the ability to discern that which is good and helpful to you. He has given you rights and boundaries that should never be crossed, and should someone try you have the right to exercise your authority over that person, regardless of who they are. In fact when you exercise your authority for truth, you have the power to create change!

Anxiety and ear are nothing more than a lack of knowledge and faith. When you obtain the knowledge of who you are (truth) establish your purpose or goal, which sounds like you desire to have a peaceful relationship with your father, you can then create a plan of action in order to receive the peace you desire. Practice at home before you see him exactly what you will say with truth and love should there be a need for correction. I suggest meditating on God’s word, guard your mind and your heart with the love of God. Take a scripture to rely on to sustain you while you are in the presence of your father and enjoy the success which will be yours! Remember also to speak to yourself that which you wish to see, such as “I am a powerful woman of God.”

Suggested scripture: 2 Timothy 1:7”For God did not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.”

Do you have a question for La Vonne? Send her an email at Lavonne@YourKingdomInheritance.com. Visit her website at www.yourkingdominheritance.com. Rich blessings!

By Grelan Muse Sr.
Inside The Pew

Going to church on Sunday as a kid was always interesting. My family and I used to attend an old wooden church which sat on the hill in Amite, La. We did not have central air to keep us cool, only a box fan. Service got going at 11 a.m. and the time we shared with the Lord and in fellowship with each other was priceless. The only heat that went on at our church was the fire the congregation showed for the Lord.

The old saints would rejoice and all we had was one big drum and a few tambourines to work with. We clapped our hands and sang praises to the Lord such as Payday is Coming After While and It’s Gonna Rain. Then, the spirit of God encompassed us. The young people had to get up and testify as well. We were so happy to do so and tell how good God had been to us that week. I could feel the power moving all around me and others in the room. As a teenager, I didn’t understand everything that was going on, but I knew it was the anointing that destroyed the yoke, and, at that time, the anointing had broken down the strong holds of the enemy. We were so enthralled with the spirit the physical conditions of the church were no longer a concern.

Now I can appreciate what was happening within my congregation. The Bible says we all were born into sin. The experience of falling in love with Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Ghost and being born again in the spirit separates us from sin. Once we allow the Holy Spirit to enter our minds and heart, we can live the life Jesus lived. At this point we are free, and we graciously allow the Holy Ghost to come into our lives. This is why you see adults and teenagers crying like babies because there is no more sin in their lives; they are new creatures in Jesus Christ. We are babes in God’s sight (1 Corinthians 3:1, KJV).

My experience reminds me of the story in Acts 2:1-4 when the Holy Spirit comes at Pentecost: “And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place. And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting. And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them. And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance” (KJV).

The old man is gone, and a new man is here. The scripture shows the importance of letting the new spirit come in. I can see God working even as I write this column. I encourage those who have allowed the eternal flame to fizzle out to rekindle it. I pray the Holy Ghost will move in your life once again and bring you closer to the One who loves dearly loves you.

Grelan Muse Sr. is founder of Inside The Pew (@pewnews) and Emanuel and The Mainline Ministries . Email responses to this column to pewnews@aol.com. Follow Pastor Muse on Twitter @gremuse.