Earl: Grateful people are blessed

27. July 2015 · Write a comment · Categories: Pew Talk · Tags: , , , ,

By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew

Have you ever noticed that people who are grateful are truly happy? Perhaps you think they are happy because things are going really well in their life, which very well could be true. Or perhaps there is a bigger secret as to why they are so blessed. I believe it is because they look for the blessings in their life. Like seeing gold everywhere they look. You might point out to them that it is really fools’ gold, but to them it is the prettiest sparkle they have ever seen.

This simple act of looking for the blessings in your life develops the prefrontal cortex of the brain, where all your happy emotions are stored. Did you know that the more you practice looking for joy, the bigger this part of the brain begins to grow? This makes it easier and more natural to see and feel joy daily.

The more joyful people are, the more others enjoy being around them, which further blesses the person because they have more people in their life. Social people are happier people.

Joyful, happy people are usually better at demonstrating gratitude for others. Either by verbally expressing their gratitude in person or La Vonne Earlthrough gifts and/or acts of service.

Think about it, who doesn’t want to do more for the grateful individual in their life? When people appreciate us we naturally want to do more for them.

So in your relationships, no matter who it is, your child, spouse, parent or business relationship, show your gratitude for them for the blessings they have given to you. Regardless of whether they have blessed you in a small or large way, find out their love language and seek to bless them! And seriously come on, not just once, do it often! They in turn will come to enjoy your company and will seek to do more for you!

By the way, what has happened to the thank you card? Does anybody do those anymore? This is a practice that is becoming so rare these days. If someone receives a thank you card from you they will feel you have gone above and beyond when really you are practicing something that is a common courtesy.

Our pastor Rick Warren has said that all you need to do is just a little bit more than average and people will think you are outstanding!

Become a grateful person and watch the blessings begin to pour into your life! Including feeling great because you know you are blessed!

La Vonne Earl is the founder and director of YKI coaching associates. She is a Master Certified Christian Coach and trainer for YKI coaching. Her professional trainings include coaching, counseling, Neuro Linguistics Programing, Sozo Healing, and Hypnotherapy. She has broad experiences in handling various life issues and is capable of helping you to achieve Emotional Wellness. 

Earl: The five keys to success

18. June 2013 · Write a comment · Categories: Pew Talk · Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,
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By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew

At the root of success lies five essential keys – truth, purpose, plan, action, and reward. This model works in every facet of our lives. Stay inLa Vonne Earl prayer as you keep in step with God’s course of action for you.

1. God said you shall know the truth and the truth will set you free (John 8:32). He wasn’t just talking about spirituality. Truth is critical for success in every area of our life. We must know the truth about ourselves to begin with. Who are we? We must understand the truth in each and every given situation in order to distinguish what we are to change in order to attain our goal.

2. Purpose is the crucial element that drives us in life. Without purpose we are lost in a world just consuming oxygen and waiting for it all to end. Our energy becomes depleted as the zest for “what could have been” has slowly faded away. If you are finding yourself disheartened, disappointed, and drained from the hours in the day, then it is quite possible that you are not living out your purpose in life.

3. Once the light bulb has gone on and your energy and excitement has returned the next step is creating a plan. God tells us He knows the plans He has for us. Jeremiah 29:11. You see He has laid it all out in detail. When we are walking in His plans for us with clarity and detail the joy and energy returns!

4. Without action, truth, purpose and planning are nothing more than wasted information. The good news is that once you have established what truth is, found your purpose and devised the plan action is easy! With all the new-found energy and excitement that you will gain starting your day will be a joy!

5. The rewards from the first four keys will begin to pour into your life. This is the point where the keys then must be repeated. As you reap your harvest your question becomes, What is the truth of why I have been blessed? What now is my purpose for this harvest? Who will I help? What plan of Action will I take to bless others? And the circle begins as your keys to happiness, joy and success have been given to you.

La Vonne Earl, a resident of Newport Beach, Calif., is author of Loved into the Light, Shining God’s Light on Mormonism.  Learn more about her ministry at http://www.yourkingdominheritance.com/.

From anxious to powerful: Rest on your faith

26. June 2012 · Write a comment · Categories: Pew Talk · Tags: , , , , , , , ,

Editor’s note: The views expressed are those of the author and not of Inside The Pew staff.

By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew

Dear La Vonne,

I was raised in an extremely physically and verbally abusive home. I am a grown woman now, 37 years old, and yet I revert to the frightened little girl whenever I am around my father. I need to see him because of family get-togethers. Now that Father’s Day is approaching I am filled with anxiety knowing I will see him. Why can’t I just grow up, forget the past and act like the woman I should be?

Dear Powerful Woman of God,

I am sorry that you were raised in a home that was not safe and was unloving. The consequences of our early beginnings can last a life time if we allow them to. Without knowing much of your story and the woman that you have become, I will seek to answer you assuming it is at least physically safe for you to be around your father. As I begin to answer your question let’s start with the first key being the truth of who you were created to be. God has created you to be a powerful woman of God. He has given you a sound mind with the ability to discern that which is good and helpful to you. He has given you rights and boundaries that should never be crossed, and should someone try you have the right to exercise your authority over that person, regardless of who they are. In fact when you exercise your authority for truth, you have the power to create change!

Anxiety and ear are nothing more than a lack of knowledge and faith. When you obtain the knowledge of who you are (truth) establish your purpose or goal, which sounds like you desire to have a peaceful relationship with your father, you can then create a plan of action in order to receive the peace you desire. Practice at home before you see him exactly what you will say with truth and love should there be a need for correction. I suggest meditating on God’s word, guard your mind and your heart with the love of God. Take a scripture to rely on to sustain you while you are in the presence of your father and enjoy the success which will be yours! Remember also to speak to yourself that which you wish to see, such as “I am a powerful woman of God.”

Suggested scripture: 2 Timothy 1:7”For God did not give us a spirit of fear and timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.”

Do you have a question for La Vonne? Send her an email at Lavonne@YourKingdomInheritance.com. Visit her website at www.yourkingdominheritance.com. Rich blessings!

Forgiving your mother in the fashion God commands

16. May 2012 · Write a comment · Categories: Pew Talk · Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Editor’s note: The views expressed in this column are those of the author and not of the staff of Inside The Pew.

By La Vonne Earl
Special to Inside The Pew

Now that Mother’s Day has come and gone, many are able to breathe again. Mother’s Day is filled with mixed emotions for many people who have

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endured relationships that would be considered anything but perfect. In Hector Tobar’s article depicting the play “Cafe Vida,” he conveys the story of three moms that have endured homelessness, prison, and drug abuse. He gives a glimpse of what life was like for them. The guilt and torment that they have suffered knowing that they were not the best of mothers due largely to the life they lived. They are working on changing not only their future, but that of their children. One of the mothers, Alfaro mentions “for all the pain I was in, I knew there had to be something beautiful for me. By the grace of God, I found it.”

These are only but three of many moms that have suffered the painful things in their life that most of their children know nothing about.

Some, like these mothers, have found God’s grace and have changed their lives and continue to break the patterns to improve their children’s lives. Others continue to repeat the patterns by holding onto resentment and pain. In a study I have participated in for sexually abused women, author and counselor John Eldredge reminds us that every woman who is callused and cold on the outside is a woman who has suffered some form of abuse. We must remember that hurt people, hurt other people.

It is not always easy to tap into the pain and seek to console the woman who has the tough outer shell. For this reason most of these women live lonely and desolate lives as many tire of trying to form a relationship. For those of us children that long for that deep relationship with our mothers this is not an easy situation. But God’s grace is sufficient. If you will allow Him to fill you with His love, He will give to your mother what you alone cannot, forgiveness and love. Only He can offer the unconditional love that is life transforming. “Love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). We must follow Christ example and offer our Mothers the unconditional love and forgiveness that even we ourselves do not deserve.

In the end, we form our families and create the life that we desire. God tells us in scripture to proclaim that which we desire. “Call those things which be not as though they were” (Roman 4:17). We all create our own reality with our thoughts and feelings, so beware. Using your imagination for God’s glory by creating and seeing in your mind the beauty that is the true identity of your mother will increase the love that she feels coming from you! This is what brings healing and transformation.

Continue to pray, create and transform your relationships and your life! This will bring God’s Kingdom here on earth as it is in heaven (Matthew 6:10).

California resident La Vonne Earl is a certified Christian life coach and counselor. A former Mormon, she has studied neuro linguistics programming, Sozo healing, and other avenues to bring healing into the lives of many. You may contact her at lavonne@yourkingdominheritance.com.